‘You Lose Confidence in Being a Human Being, Never Mind Being a Parent’: The Lived Experience of Mothers With Spinal Cord Injury

Abstract

Little research to date has explored the experiences of parenting among mothers with Spinal Cord Injury (SCI). The aim of the study was to explore the lived experiences of mothers with SCI. Semi-structured interviews were conducted with eight mothers and an interpretive phenomenological analysis was carried out. Two super-ordinate themes were identified. The first theme, entitled: ‘A sit-down mummy: The visibility of differences as a mother with SCI’ highlighted how mothers faced challenges when undertaking practical parenting tasks, thus making them feel less than their non-injured peers, and how they navigated the visible and physical intrusion of the wheelchairs in their relationships with their children. The second theme, entitled: ‘What kind of mother? Being a good enough parent’ reflected mothers’ heightened sense of guilt with respect to unmet expectations of the self as mother, and the contrasting positive experiences of availing of support and finding new ways to connect with their children. Clinical implications, methodological considerations and future directions are discussed.