‘In practice it can be so much harder’: Young people's approaches and experiences of supporting friends experiencing domestic abuse

Abstract

Young people are more likely to seek help about abusive relationships from friends, rather than adults or professionals, irrespective of gender, age or ethnic group. However, friends may be unequipped to deal with relationship problems and unable to provide adequate emotional or practical support. The aim of this paper is to explore how young people would support friends if they were seeking help or shared experiences of abuse. Qualitative findings drawn from a larger UK mixed-methods study are used to explicate this. Data was gathered using 16 focus groups and one interview with girls, young women and non-binary young people aged 13 to 24 years. Thematic analysis provided six themes pertaining to supporting friends and help-seeking around relationship abuse. Findings showed young people recommended supporting friends in a non-judgemental way to keep conversations open and help them recognise unhealthy behaviours. However, young people confirmed this is a difficult topic and many would feel fearful, helpless and under pressure. Conversations illustrated the need for more awareness of non-physical abuse and resources specifically aimed at young people to enable them to help friends and know where and when to seek professional support.