Queer Mothering in Myself Mona Ahmed: A Matricentric Feminist Analysis

Abstract

In the field of parenting studies, the experiences of non-cis mothers have remained underrepresented and inadequately researched. This lack of documentation not only neglects the multifaceted roles of non-cis mothers but also contributes to the accumulation of disenfranchised grief within this community. To address this significant gap, this article employs a qualitative study using the theoretical framework of matricentric feminism to examine the queer mothering experiences of the trans-adoptive mother in Myself, Mona Ahmed (2001), a semi-autobiographical work by Mona Ahmed and Dayanita Singh. Through this, the study seeks to elucidate the pursuit of agency and the performative nature of motherhood. The patriarchal construction of motherhood disregards the inclusivity of queer people in parenting but, matricentric theorists assert that motherhood is performative, and they advocate for the concept of "mothering" as a transformative and active practice. Indeed, Queer mothering is an evolving field that asserts parenting as a performative entity. It acknowledges the legitimacy of maternal roles for adoptive parents, genderqueer persons, and anyone who cares for the “preservation, growth, and social acceptability” of the children40). This study's implications extend beyond academic discourse, shedding light on the unique joys and struggles of queer mothering. It encourages broader societal acceptance of diverse parenting narratives, underscoring the importance of recognizing and validating the experiences of non-cis mothers. This research fosters inclusivity in parenting studies and promotes social change in perceptions of motherhood. In this context, Myself, Mona Ahmed (2001) provides a scope for critical discussion on queer motherhood which is academically less researched and also explores the disenfranchised trauma experienced by trans women within the realm of mothering.