They Say, “If You Don’t Relax…You’re Going to Make Something Bad Happen”: Women’s Emotion Management During Medically High-Risk Pregnancy

Abstract

Little is known about how women with medically high-risk pregnancy manage their emotions while worried about their pregnancies. This study aimed to phenomenologically explore 16 hospitalized women’s emotional reactions and coping during medically high-risk pregnancy with a focus on how emotion management techniques were utilized and what rationales women used for employing them, along with their interpretations of health care providers’ and family members’ advice regarding emotional expression. Respondents universally feared that experienced stress and the resulting distress (negative emotions such as anxiety, sadness, and anger) could harm their fetus. They experienced double binds including believing they must “be positive” to enhance fetal health, despite anxiety and sadness; feeling responsible for housework yet being told not to do it; and needing medical treatments they feared would harm their fetus. In attempting to avoid tears and fears, they expended tremendous energy, leaving themselves depleted and less able to cope. Ubiquitous “think positive” messages amplify women’s sense of failure when distress due to the medically high-risk pregnancy spills over. With little attention to women’s emotional experiences, even to the point of complimenting them as “good incubators,” health care providers may unintentionally shift emotional labor onto vulnerable women. Understanding women’s needs for assistance with emotion management during medically high-risk pregnancy provides important guidance for development of best practices for this population.